and things seem to be going very well

Well, lets put it this way, I am still working for the same company, but we are out of business rescue and flying.  This is all very exciting, but I still have not had an increase since 2017 and I have a lot more debt.

In December 2016 my daughter got her drivers licence.  I bought my Moms car for her and I started driving it, as the car had not been licenced in 4 years.  (A long story)  She was driving my car.  When she was at church there was an attempt to steal my car, but all they could do was break the locks.  Insurance took over and I was issued with a rental car.  I fell in love, as in head over heels with a beautiful Kia Rio.  After a month my old car came back and I continued to drive it.  I also blew the motor…….

So there I was carless again.  So I decided to see if I could get finance for a new car.  My old car had been my 40th birthday present from my husband, I was now 52… was time.  So I started looking for good second hand cars (well I only looked at Kia Rio’s).

I got her in July and I still get thrills when I drive her.  A bit pathetic I know, but to compare the cars, well you cant.  My old car was a bog standard hatch.  Now I had electric windows, air con, leather interior, mag wheels…..I still feel like a princess when I drive her.

On other side of the coin……..for the first time since 1998 I had to make car payments, it was quite an adjustment, but I was hoping that my 2018 increase would cover it.  Needless to say, I didnt get an increase…..

So hopefully soon I will.

On the plus side…….a new home is forthcoming…..

the time is dragging on

and still we sit in limbo…..not knowing if the company is going to liquidate or not.

Apparently there is money for salaries….

I have applied for many positions, and I have got a few call backs, but nothing exciting.

I am wondering if my age is against me…..I am 51, do future employers think I am over the hill.  Will I ever find a job again?

Very, very down this morning……..




My first post for the year.  And my first post in years.  I have never regained my mojo after Women24 died its sad and untimely death.

Again, I find myself in a quandary and when this happens, I feel like writing.  I have a wonderful job, my dream job in fact.  I care for and respect my colleagues.  We are a good team.  BUT, the company is not doing well, not at all.  We are currently in Business Rescue which is another way of saying that we will be retrenching, again and that all our jobs are in danger.  A month ago a few of us started working from home.  Our directors were happy with this, as were we.

However I have found there are drawbacks to working from home.  I work longer hours, as when I get busy, I lose track of time.  I miss the companionship of the office.  I miss my work family.

So today, I decided to come into the office again and I am enjoying it.  There are very few people here, most are at home.  I have a feeling though that this week we will find out some answers.

There is nothing more frustrating than not knowing whether you have a job or not.


Its been a long, long time…

Well all sorts of things have been happening since I last wrote.  I wrote in September 2014 and to say that my life has changed dramatically since then would be an understatement.

I have changed jobs, I now work in the city centre and I have finally found the job of my dreams.  I am well paid, well looked after and appreciated.  This is like a miracle!  I have a beautiful office, state of the art equipment and there is never a problem if I want to attend a course etc.  They believe in people, and it shows.  The calibre of people working here is amazing and everyone loves it.  The way I go the job is a miracle all of its own…

On the homefront, we have finally moved from where I lived for three years to a beautiful smallholding.  My drive to the city centre is now about 25 minutes to come in and 35 minutes home.  On this small holding I can breathe, I can live.  We are all happier here, even the cats.  There is a huge workshop attached which means that fiancé can expand the business, which he has done.  We have work scheduled till September, with more coming in all the time. We are financially finally starting to breathe and its an amazing feeling.

I keep on feeling so thankful for our blessings, that we seem to have been faithful with the small things, so now we are being rewarded with the bigger things.

Life is like a dream……

Long time no post

Well a lot has happened and changed in my life.  I am still happily engaged to my fiance, things have improved slowly and steadily and I feel confident and secure for the first time in years.

I have also….drum roll please, started writing articles for a business website.  In other words, I now get paid to write.  All my dreams coming true, slowly but surely.  I cant give up my day job, but I love it, the money is steady and I get to be creative.  LOVE, LOVE, LOVE IT!!!

Yay, see dreams DO come true 🙂

Miracles do happen

Miracles do happen, even to people like me. In my last blog I wrote about the little web I wove.  Well it caught me, but in the strangest way. He wrote to the “person” I set up on the site, but what he wrote was unexpected.  He wrote that he loved me and that he wanted our relationship to work out, so he would not be corresponding anymore.

Interesting I thought, well anyway, things have gone from good to magical in our household. The man who would not talk about his feelings, who did not care about mine has in the past month done a complete 360. He is caring, attentive, loving and affectionate.  He is putting me first, in all ways.  I could not be happier. I miss the other person who I fell for, I miss him terribly, but I realise he was not meant for me. I have put all my energies and love into my partner and I am getting it back, in spades.  So yes, I am happy.

I run the admin side of his business, which has been steadily and slowly growing since I took over.  Pat on the back to me! I however have a full time job that I love.  Things are now getting bigger and bigger and we have just landed a multi million rand contract.  Yes you read right, multi million.  Very scary shit.  We should be getting it all in writing by next week.  This will mean a MAJOR life style change for all of us.  But me especially.  I will have to give up my badly paid and stressful, but much loved job to work on our business fulltime. I am a 50% partner in the business so the rewards will be plentiful.  I am excited, scared, apprehensive and everything in between.

What is so magical to me is that we reconciled BEFORE we got the news about the big contract and it seems almost like a “gift” for being committed to our relationship.  I know that makes NO sense, but that is how I feel.  So yes, finally, the financial security I have been longing for is coming, not through someone else only, but a joint effort by two people

The Evil Witch…..

I have a mean streak in me. Don’t fuck with me. You will end up losing. Badly
My ex…the person I live with…the person I am trying to build a relationship with is a liar
I know this, I am aware of it, I have been aware of it for a while
The reason I started looking on dating sites was because of his treatment of me and the fact that he was on them
I am sure that he has been unfaithful to me, but I have now been unfaithful to him
we live together and he has actively been pursuing me and “courting” me for the last 2 weeks
he swears that he has changed but I am not so sure
So I was evil…I know what sites he frequents, I set up a profile, he contacted me, I set up a dummy e mail address, he fell for it
Now he is mailing me
This is one hell of a kettle of worms I have opened up!!
But I still cannot be with the one I adore, I have to finish this mess first




I think I am finally learning that I was broken.  I am healing, but there are still parts missing…sort of like when you fix a broken plate and there are a couple of chips out…

Someone special said this to me last night and I have taken this to heart:

“Is this the way you want to live for the rest of your life? Are you truly someone who plans to fail? I don’t think you are actually”

OOOOPPPPSSS….way to close to the bone……..

and then

“I see you trapped, I see you making a trap for yourself. I see your lack of confidence trapping you. I see your prophecies coming true. Shape the future you want, live it and it will happen”

This is SO fundamentally true that I don’t really know how to handle it.

MORE food for thought, for a over analyser like me…going to keep me busy for a while.

Analyse this….

I am a “over thinker”, a closet analyst if you wish.  I analyse everything, mainly to my own detriment. 

I had another meeting this week with the person I have been chatting with non stop.  This meeting went further…much further. I discovered things about myself that I didn’t know, hidden depths, if you want.  Of course I have been analysing this non stop this weekend.  Did I do the right thing by meeting and giving myself so completely?  My answer to that is yes, I did.  I have no regrets about what occurred. I have learnt a lot about myself in the past few months and I am very happy I followed my gut instinct and had another meeting.

He is very special, probably one of the most interesting individuals I have met.  I learn from him, and that to me is the ultimate turn-on. And yes, all boxes are very much ticked. He intrigues me, I would love to know the entire person, scratch away the surface and find the inner core.  Lots and lots of layers there.  Whether I will have the opportunity to do so, I am not sure. He has got through my defences and made me look at myself in a different light.  There are certain things I do NOT discuss, but when He asked me questions, I gushed like a 5 year old.  Which again begs the question, why does He get through to me.  He got further than a lot of psychologists have.

So now I am back to square one…analysing myself, working out WHY I behave as I do, what I am actually seeking.  I have also come to the realisation that being strong is not always right.  I want someone to look after me, to put their arms around me and reassure me that the baddies are not going to kill me. But, and its a big BUT, I need someone who is strong enough in their own character to let me lean on them.  Another question I ask myself is, if I am SO strong, why do I need someone to look after me? Is this another character flaw, another weakness?

Questions, questions